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Finding Yourself: The Secret

The Secret to Finding Yourself

Finding Yourself: Sunset

'Trying to find yourself' has gotten a mixed reputation. It can be a convenient excuse when you want to break up with someone without mentioning the real reasons. It can also be a diversion from accepting responsibilities - like doing your share of household chores or getting a job.

But figuring out who you are and what you need to do to have a fulfilling life could be the most important and satisfying questions you’ll ever answer.

If you’re sincere about self-discovery, try these suggestions to guide you in your search.

Finding Yourself: Goals and values

Finding Yourself: What To Look For

Set goals

Having a destination in mind guides your steps and keeps you on track. Where do you want to be in 5 or 10 years? For more information on goal setting, check out this post

Clarify your values

Knowing your values (i.e, what is important to you) helps you to make sound decisions and focus on your activities. Consider how your values relate to your daily life. Look for opportunities to live in agreement with them. Summarise your philosophy into a personal values statement you can refer to when needed. 

Check out these articles for more on goals and values:

There is a very useful technique used by Dr John Demartini that takes you through the process for determining your values. Check it out here.

For a 'paid' values clarification process, check this out.

Also watch the video below for a brief introduction.

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Finding Yourself  - Understand your strengths

Do you know where your talents lie and what you feel passionate about? You’ll do greater things with less stress when you choose a path that lets you leverage your main assets.

Build support

Finding yourself is tough work. You’ll need a sturdy network of family, friends, and colleagues you can rely on for advice and support. Being generous about sharing your resources with others increases the likelihood that they’ll want to do the same for you.

Finding Yourself -  Create flow states

What activities boost your energy levels and make you lose track of time? Whether you love playing the piano or solving physics equations, chances are these flow states will suggest the fields in which you can excel.

Finding Yourself - Seek And You Shall Find

Finding Yourself: Where To Look

Listen to yourself

Finding yourself is about living authentically. Pay attention to what your mind and body are telling you. Notice when you feel engaged and when you feel lost. Is there a pattern behind these situations?

Accept your feelings

Acknowledge your emotions, even when they cause you discomfort. Trying to suppress the truth will backfire and produce more stress. When you accept your anger or sorrow, you can start thinking about positive options for dealing with it.

Ask your friends

While you’re cultivating self-knowledge, you may enjoy listening to how others view you. Their feedback may point out qualities and habits that you overlook.

Keep a journal

Writing about your journey encourages you to learn and grow. Recording your activities and insights can help you to find solutions to personal challenges and build your self-esteem.

Read literature

Observing how characters in movies and novels behave may teach you how to handle similar events in your own life. You may find yourself viewing a long-standing conflict in a new light or experimenting with a different way of responding.

Finding Yourself - New Experiences

Welcome new experiences

Breaking out of your comfort zone is bound to reveal surprising facets of your personality. Taking an exotic vacation or leading a pilot project at work may inspire you to plan a bigger transformation.

Practice your faith

For many adults, spiritual beliefs play an essential role in defining themselves and their goals. If your faith is central to your life, study the scriptures in your tradition, talk with other members of your community, and put your beliefs into action.

Finding Yourself: In Sum

Finding yourself is an ongoing process that lasts a lifetime. Be willing to discover the truth about yourself and align your activities with your values and goals.

This will help you to lead a more rewarding and successful life.

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