Today and for the last few days I noticed that I wasn’t feeling super positive about things in general – in fact there was a definite feeling of disgust and despondency that I couldn’t quite put my finger on.
It took me a while to figure out why. It was because I perceived that some of my values were under attack. Now as these values are political in nature I don’t need to share them here.
Nevertheless no matter what your values are in whatever area, if you perceive that they are under attack, then your immediate impulse is to fight back.
Now that ‘fight’ impulse is of course quite natural. It dates from our pre-human days when fight and flight were the only mechanisms we could use to ensure our personal safety.
Nowadays, the threats are not physical, but our thoughts, feeling and behaviours still reflect that.
How, then, do you overcome this?
In the situation I mentioned above, I eventually decided to look at the upside of the situation. What were the benefits of it compared to the disadvantages?
As soon as I had about 20 benefits, my feelings of anger subsided and I was able to get on with things.
So if you find yourself in this situation – that’s what you do. Think of 20 benefits of the situation and it will bring your emotional state back to common ground.
If you’d like to watch a similar video on this, check out Jack Canfield video ‘How to Deal with Negative Self-Talk’ below. It contains some great tips on the subject.