Today we begin a new series of articles called ’13 Essentials For Success’. Today we look at the first of these, ‘Desire’
What is ‘Desire?’
A standard dictionary definition says: ‘a longing or craving, as for something that brings satisfaction or enjoyment’ e.g. a desire for fame; an expressed wish or request.
So there are 2 parts here – the feeling of desire itself and the end state (satisfaction, enjoyment, happiness) when the object of desire is achieved or obtained.
So if you desire success, you know that when you get success you will experience joy, happiness and satisfaction. If you desire a new hat, you will achieve satisfaction when you get one.
As this is only one of the 13 essentials for success, more details are required.
Such as ‘what kind of desire’ or ‘how much desire’
As to ‘what kind,’ is it ‘dreaming’, ‘hoping’, ‘wishing’? The answer is ‘not quite.’
Early on, these are useful things as a way of framing your desire, but in the longer term they are not intense enough feelings to provoke you into action. Having a ‘would be nice’ attitude will not get you what you want.
But it’s OK to dream! Wishing and hoping are not as useful, but dreaming does stimulate the mind and the emotions, particularly if you can envision yourself having that what you want. This will then ignite the desire that you need.
That kind of desire you need for success is a ‘burning’ desire – but that been said, not a ‘red hot’ desire that will burn fiercely but burn out quickly.
You need the kind of ‘white hot’ desire that smoulders and burns and goes on and on until you get what you want. It’s a desire that can sustain you when things appear to be stagnant, or even going backwards.
One thing is essential with your desires: you must be definite in what it is that you want. You need to know your ‘why.’
In order to do this, there is a 6 step technique to follow. Say you want to make money. Then look at this process below:
You’ll find that this technique will cement your desire for success in whatever you want. Through the process of repetition, the mind is effectively being re-programmed to accept your success as a foregone conclusion.
You will begin to see yourself with the money (or whatever): see it, smell it, feel it etc. And this will spur you onwards to actually achieve it, and it will stoke your white hot fire of desire.